How to Get Help for Binge Eating Disorder

How to Get Help for Binge Eating Disorder

Struggling with binge eating? Feeling out of control of your eating and don’t know where to turn? I have an excellent starting point for you. I discussed what binge eating disorder is and how to get help on a recent podcast on the Embodied & Well Mom Show that I did on with the fabulous Lindsay Stenovec, MS, RDN, CEDRD of San Diego’s Nutrition Instincts. I have provided a transcription of the main part of the podcast in this blog post. Enjoy!!

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Five Tips for Managing Overwhelming Emotions in Eating Disorder Recovery

Five Tips for Managing Overwhelming Emotions in Eating Disorder Recovery

Have you ever felt so filled with emotion that it was almost unbearable? Do your mind and body feel flooded with feelings such as fear, anger, disgust, frustration, irritability, anxiety, or sadness—to the point at which you feel almost paralyzed? Having an eating disorder in San Diego and elsewhere is so hard. Sometimes the overwhelming emotions can be triggered by things such as discomfort with food and with your body, negative interactions with others, and work and family stress. At such times, it seems like the emotions take over both your brain and your body, and you would do anything thing in the world to make them stop. It is so so hard. Thankfully, there are a few coping strategies that can help you navigate such situations. These coping skills come from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which is an approach I integrate in my work with people struggling with eating disorders in San Diego.

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Let's Talk About Sex and Body Image! Meet Sex Therapist Dr. Nicole Van Ness, LMFT

Let's Talk About Sex and Body Image! Meet Sex Therapist Dr. Nicole Van Ness, LMFT

Have you been struggling with your body image so much that it has been affecting your sex life? Is your partner complaining that you don’t want to have sex that frequently, and you feel hesitant to share that it’s because you feel uncomfortable in your own skin? Whether you live in San Diego or elsewhere, you likely know that having a regular and fulfilling sex life is important for intimate relationships. The reality is that A LOT of people struggle with sexual intimacy, and when you have an eating disorder and feel negatively about your body, it becomes a drain on your life and relationships.

Needing answers? I have brought top expert, as well as friend and former top doctoral student of mine, Dr. Nicole Van Ness. Nicole went to school and learned her trade as a sex therapist in San Diego, and in recent years she has moved to Texas, where she has a private practice and is adjunct faculty at Southern Methodist University. Nicole has maintained her California license as a marriage and family therapist, and she provides videoconference services for individuals and couples in San Diego and other parts of California.

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Four Tips to Navigating Triggering Family Situations in Eating Disorder Recovery

Four Tips to Navigating Triggering Family Situations in Eating Disorder Recovery

Do you ever struggle with all of the focus on “family” and “togetherness” this time of year? Does it seem as though you can barely get through family events without feeling like you want to run out of the room screaming? Holidays can be such a challenge if you have an eating disorder. A lot of family-focused activities center around food, which can trigger a lot of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotions. It is hard when parents, spouses, grandparents, great-aunt Petunias, or whoever comment about your body and what you are (or aren’t) eating. Especially in San Diego, when in December you can be wearing tank tops, shorts, or a skirt as you take family trips to the beach. It can feel as though your body and how you eat is on display. It may seem that loved ones have free reign to comment on it. It really, really sucks. As an eating disorder therapist, I love helping people navigate family situations that can be tricky and triggering, so I’m here to help you get started.

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Interview with San Diego Eating Disorder Dietitian, Dr. Megan Holt Hellner, RD

Interview with San Diego Eating Disorder Dietitian, Dr. Megan Holt Hellner, RD

Hi everyone! I’m starting a blog series interviewing various eating disorder professionals in the San Diego area. I’m beginning with one of my favorite eating disorder dietitians to work with in San Diego—Dr. Megan Holt Hellner, RD. She and I have collaborated on many client cases, and she is conscientious, caring, compassionate, and thorough. One thing I love about Megan is that she has two advanced degrees in public health, and so she is especially good at working with people with challenging physical aliments. She also specializes in working with athletes.

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Tapping into Mindfulness: Part 5 of Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment—A 5-Part Series

Mindfulness is moment-to-moment nonjudgmental awareness.  It is accessing our physical senses and focusing on the NOW instead of worrying about the past or the future.  Practicing mindfulness in San Diego is so challenging.  We live in a beautiful place, yet our schedules are packed with work, school, appointments, and other family activities.  San Diego is also an expensive place so live, so I think that often we feel compelled to make as much money we can, sometimes to the detriment of our health.  In this post, I’m going to identify three simple ways to tap into mindfulness to help us calm down our overactive brains and have an easier time negotiating the stresses of San Diego life. 

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Diving Deeper into Spiritual Healing: Part 4 of Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment—A 5-Part Series

Diving Deeper into Spiritual Healing:  Part 4 of Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment—A 5-Part Series

Sometimes when you feel overwhelmed by your spiritual pain, you can think that there is no hope.  It is at these times when you need to dive deep into your pain to let yourself experience spiritual healing.  If you struggle with disordered eating, you know how painful it can be . . . emotionally, psychologically, physically, and spiritually.  Becoming acutely aware of all aspects of your pain as you go about your daily life in San Diego lets you open yourself to healing. It’s like when you have an infection in your arm—you need to open it up and clean out all of the gunk and then put the medicine on it so it can heal.  Spirituality can be your medicine—the balm for your soul.

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Starting Your Journey to Spiritual Healing: Part 3 of Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment—A 5-Part Series

Starting Your Journey to Spiritual Healing:  Part 3 of Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment—A 5-Part Series

You’ve recognized that you’ve got some spiritual pain.  Congratulate yourself for the awareness—it’s a hard thing to acknowledge.  You may be thinking, is spiritual healing even possible. Do I even want it?  I feel so far away from God or my higher power in my life in San Diego that it just seems like too big of a gulf to bridge.  I understand that it can feel overwhelming.  I want to encourage you that all you have to do is take the first, small step.  Sometimes you have to walk before you run, and sometimes you have to tiptoe before you walk.  Let’ go ahead and stick that foot out there and start the journey.

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Filling Your Spiritual Cup: Part 1 in a 5-Part Series on Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment

Filling Your Spiritual Cup:  Part 1 in a 5-Part Series on Finding the Spiritual in Eating Disorder Treatment

What brings you peace in your life in San Diego?  When do you feel most connected to the world around you—to other people, to animals, to nature?  When do you feel a sense of well-being?  These are some of the questions I might ask my clients when getting them to focus on what feeds them spiritually in San Diego.  In eating disorder recovery, so much of the focus can be on food and our bodies, but what often is a missing piece in treatment is nourishing our souls.  

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